As a fan of Mark Driscoll, I was excited to have the opportunity to receive a free copy of Real Marriage when it was first introduced. I’ve read many books on marriage, and this is certainly one of the better ones – but also not the best.
The Driscolls’ book is frank and honest regarding marriage, and at times I found myself feeling like I didn’t live up to the ideal they described for the Christian husband. That’s not to say shame on them, but rather shame on me – for everything I found myself convicted of was something that I agree with them on, and I do want to do better at. The best part of the book was the first few chapters, but I was disappointed that nearly half the book focused on sex. I understand why this is the case, but I also understand that while sex for Christians can only happen in marriage, marriage is much more than sex. But it would be difficult to understand that from the way it is portrayed in this book. I’m no expert on the topic, but my understanding is that just as many marriages fail due to issues of finances as anything else, so I find it interesting that they never once brought this up in the book.
Overall, I’ll give the book 4/5 stars. I would recommend it for married couples and for newly-weds, but for those who haven’t read Gary Thomas’ Sacred Marriage or the Eldredge’s Love & War, I would recommend starting with those books.
For the record, I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest, though not necessarily favorable, review.